Dear Sister,

I am very glad that you are seeking out biblical truths for your life, but you missed some very important and life changing information because of one thing... you did not put away your earthly understanding as you read what the Lord gave me to minister to women (Proverbs 3 v 5). This ministry is about a very dangerous and damning way of life that women the world over have accepted from the enemy, and it is not man, but Satan rather who has fueled the fire of this lie that tells us we are nothing but worthless house help, breeding factories and free sex on demand. He has robbed us of our God given rightful place, a place of honor and great importance if done correctly and from a right attitude of heart.

We, at creation were MADE to be a helpmeet to our husbands, and unto the Lord if we are unmarried. When we fell into sin, who was it that sinned first? Eve, she then caused her husband to fall into sin, she demonstrated something that still is prevalent today in women, she saw a shiny piece of fruit and had to have it, we see a handbag or piece of jewelry or clothing, we can't help ourselves, we have to have it, we think on it and meditate on it, we save up for it, we do what ever it takes until we get it, the very same thing Eve did, now honestly tell me, when was the last time you saw a man (not of the homosexual persuasion) go giddy like a schoolgirl over some shoes or a kitchen appliance or something like that, and when was the last time you ever saw a man go on a 'shopping spree'? You just don't see it, when the Lord made woman, he took her 'out' of man, we are two halves of the same whole, men got the unemotional, logical half and we copped the lioness' share of the emotions, we are easily persuaded by our emotions, and we very easily get on the band wagon about anybody or anything that rubs us the wrong way, even about things that have nothing to do with us and don’t concern us in any way, shape or form.

That is why men and women are so different, what was originally put into man was split in two, and no not all things were evenly divided, because yes men have some emotion and yes women when it suites them can be unemotional and think logically, but woman were given the ability to care and nurture their children and men were given the ability to be a strength and security unto the family. God made us the way he did to fit HIS plan, and there is no changing it or arguing around the fact, on this point we can do one of two things, accept what God did and rejoice that everyday as we fulfill the role God has given us, both as men and women, that we are pleasing in His sight and are doing His perfect will, or we can begrudgingly deal with it and kick at the goads the whole way, complaining and trying to find a better way of doing things than God Almighty, the very one who holds all things in place with just a thought, pray he does not forget us. There is no better way than God's and who wants to risk their salvation by telling God they don't need Him. When you got saved, it was not because you thought God was getting a sweet deal when you accepted Him, but because you realized that 'your' way of doing things was not working, that 'your way of doing things was going to send you to hell quicker than you can snap your fingers.

Jesus Himself declared that He came for the sick and down trodden, that the well do not need a doctor, just as those who think they have everything together, and do not have to atone for the life they live here on earth do not think they need God. If you got saved, you had better hope that it was because you realized that you were a complete and utter failure at living your own life and that you desperately needed God to take over and make sense of the confusion and chaos that you called your life, because anything other than that is not a real salvation, because at your salvation, you handed over the keys and deed to your life and gave it to him to run for you from that point on, that you might be used of him for his glory and the expansion of his kingdom and hopefully, through you Jesus might reach out and save others.

It was not man but God who declared that the man would be the head of the house or priest of the house, get that, God! So on this point, if you value your salvation I would, with all the love in my heart for you, another sister in the Lord, suggest you deal with it, accept it, embrace it and most importantly, with everything within you, love and live it. I know my words might seem harsh, but this is a very important subject to me because I see the millions of women that are so bound and determined that they will not submit to their husbands, that they would rather go to hell than to be told what to do by a man. I will not beat around the bush on this, if you can not submit to those God has put in authority over you, you can not submit to God and your salvation is lost to you from the very beginning, for God is a man.

No, we were not under earthly law when we were thrown out of the Garden of Eden, for earthly law (the ten commandments, the laws regarding clean and unclean food, style of dress, Laws for the temple and sacrifice etc.) was not put in place until Moses met with God on the mountainside in the middle of the desert. Before God threw us out of the garden, he placed us under the headship of our husbands, and as the priest of the house, man was to do as he was told by God and he would lead us in they way that God directed, but because of the sin that was committed, first by Eve and it was the sin of greed, the second sin was also committed by Eve, the sin of pride, she was embarrassed by what she did and not wanting to be the only one that made God angry, so she went to her husband and caused him to sin through enticement the fourth sin, the fifth sin was committed by Adam in that Adam then also ate of the fruit of the knowledge of good and evil, this way of life could never be, for rebellion in mankind was born that day.

They were never under the ‘law of nature’, for there is no such thing, there is only God’s law, nature does as it is commanded by it's creator, unlike humans, nature is obedient and submits to God. There is no survival of the fittest, creation follows God’s plan, and each creature is put here to keep a perfect balance, harmony. With God’s way being done in His creation there is never an over populous of a particular species, for if such were to happen it would destroy life as we not it although we are doing a pretty bang up job of it ourselves. The Lord designed this world to run like clockwork, everything in sync, everything that is, except us, through sin, we humans are like a cog with broken teeth that slips and falters at each turn. Our only chance of restoration, of being whole again, is to be renewed in Christ Jesus and becoming part of His loving plan.

As you can see, by reading further into Genesis, you encounter the flood, where all the world but one man was in horrendous and abhorrent sin, this one man was Noah and his wife who was in submission to him (she would have to have been, to help build a massive boat over a period of one hundred and twenty years. when there had never even so much a drop of rain had ever fallen from the sky at that point in time, the ground was watered by a mist that descended at night to water the earth, it was this layer of water that God tore open and flooded the earth with, establishing rain for the first time, people thoughts he was crazy because they knew not what rain was). Along with Noah and his wife were his sons and there families

So, back to Eve, The Hebrew word the Lord used when he handed out Eve’s punishment was Masal: means to rule, to reign, govern, have dominion, and manage. Part of Eve’s punishment was submission to the appropriate leadership of her husband over the family. One of its key meanings is also Self-Control.

Ecclesiastes 7 v 26 – 28: I find more bitter than death the woman who is a snare, whose heart is a trap and whose hands are chains. The man who pleases God will escape her, but the sinner she will ensnare. "Look," says the Teacher, "this is what I have discovered: "Adding one thing to another to discover the scheme of things- while I was still searching but not finding— I found one upright man among a thousand, but not one upright woman among them all. (Words of King Solomon the wise)

Eve demonstrated that she had no self-control, so the Lord in His mercy for that which He had created, put her under the control of her husband. The Lord instilled in the family unit a system that if lived out correctly, would enable future generations to grow up in the ways of the Lord and see how the Living God works in a Christian’s life. In a Christian home, living under God’s grace, the parents represent the God-head, to allow their children to see physically what happens in the spiritual when they become old to (thank to Eve) understand right from wrong and are able to sincerely ask Jesus to be Lord of their lives.

In such a Home, the father represents God as the Supreme authority, strength and security there is safety to be found in him because he is reliable and steady in his dealings (because he is obedient to God in his own life), he is the be all and end all of decision making. The mother represents the Holy Spirit, she nurtures, encourages, teaches, admonishes and rebukes and most importantly does 98% of the physical discipline, the conversation between the two, is the interceding done by Jesus on our behalf before God, any time a mother asks the husband for something on behalf of the children she is interceding for them. When the child reaches adulthood and is considered mature (late teens) and able to hear from God in their own right, that child’s parents take a back seat and that child begins to walk on their own two feet with the Lord.

Now if they are not brought up to love correction and it’s life saving power (Proverbs 12 v 1, Proverbs 5 v 1 –13, Proverbs 6 v 20 –23, Proverbs 29 v 15 & 17), they will never be able to accept the Lords correction and refining power (Deuteronomy 8 v 5, Proverbs 3 v 11- 12, Hebrews 12 v 4 – 11), if the parents did not get their job right, their child is set up to fail right from the get go and there will be a lot of work on the Lords part to bring them into the calling he has placed upon their lives, which is why he instructs us to train them up in the way that they should go, and when they grow old they will not depart from it (Proverbs 22 v 6, Ephesians 6 v 4), why, because it is the only life they have ever known, and there is security in it for them, if they are brought up to understand that when that transfer of authority takes place that the same life they had with their parents, a very close and personal relationship based upon love and obedience they will naturally fall into that walk with the Lord unhindered and have total and complete faith and trust in the Lord, because they understand the relationship and it’s workings, why, because they have lived it, they understand that their parents lived they way they did so that their children would be able to see it work before their eyes, and even though they may not be able to physically see or hear God, the life they lived as child opened their spiritual eyes and ears to enable them to hear their masters voice and see his hand at work in their lives and the lives of others around them.

In a single parent home, the sole parent, either mother or Father remains in place as the physical representation of the Holy Spirit and they deal directly with God and their prayer life and interceding with the Lord for Him to meet their daily needs etc. is the interceding done on behalf of Jesus for us in our walks with the Lord.

And as they grow up in these Christian homes they witness the personal relationship each parent has with the Lord as an individual, how he causes them to grow spiritually, and they are able to see what it is like when someone is experiencing the joy of the Lord, how he rescues them in times of trouble, heals them when they are sick and raises them up when they fall. A truly beautiful thing to behold.

Yes, here in this ministry we believe in equal pay for equal work, and we also believe there are jobs that are better done by men, a fireman’s gear for instance (and I know this because my husband is a firefighter), worn for protection, weighs over 85 pounds, now I personally don’t want some 120 pound woman trying to drag me (155pounds) plus her gear (85 pounds) and herself (120 pounds for a grand total of about 360 pounds) out of a burning building, that’s just insane, our bodies as women, were just not built to do those kinds of jobs, and men can’t have babies, no matter what science says and if women don’t like it, don’t ‘rail against the man’ (no, there is no “on going struggle with man” it is summed up in one word, division and it comes from Satan, so if you are struggling against man, guess who you are allied with), take it up with God, tell him that that which he said was good just doesn’t work for you. Let me know what he says; just don’t put in a change request for me.

I have never been happier in my life than I am as a stay at home mom, a housewife, a women’s ministry counselor, a marriage counselor alongside my husband, a home school teacher to my five year old daughter whilst nursing full time an 8 month old baby, a full time accountant and billings department assistant manager to two very successful companies, I enjoy spending my spare time doing cross stitch and crotchet and most important of all, with my husband, I am his best friend and trusted confidant, we have no secrets between us (really, I’m not saying it to make my life sound better than it is, it’s just the truth and we work hard TOGETHER to get to where we are TOGETHER), and it took a lot of years for us to build up that trust and break down those wall that Satan would have seen set in place between us for all time, we are able to openly bear our lives to one another, that there might be no room for Satan to cause division to come between us, that we might be able to pray unhindered for the benefit of others.

I have two sisters-in-law, married to my husbands brothers, and they are equally as happy as I am, we all have two kids (so far, hoping for more and at least one is due any day now, yeah!), we all home school, I work with finances, one of my sisters works as a graphic artist and website designer, and my third sister works full time with her husband in our caring hands outreach ministry, along with taking people (currently 4 right now) who have nowhere to go into her own home and providing a place for them to live as the Lord ministers to them and works in there lives to restore them as heirs to his kingdom, we all have personal hobbies, we all three of us are part of our own music group by the name of Servanthood (see the link on the website), to which we all write and compose our own songs that they might be used free of charge by anyone that would like to sing praise to God, and although our lives might seem crazy to most people, the one thing that holds each of us together, is our husbands, real men of God, when things start falling down around us and we start drifting away from the spirit of God and losing his joy and his will for us, our husbands are always right there to reel us back in, to help us to ‘stop running and go pray, I’ll take the kids honey, you go find God, cause you lost Him”, they are there to help us keep our attitudes in check when the kids are tap dancing on our last nerve, to listen to our ideas and enjoy our creativity, given the choice between going out to dinner and eating at home, 9 times out of 10, we all prefer to stay home and have a home cooked meal, my husband and I cook together and he helps me keep the house clean, he does diapers and he is a wonderful father that takes time to encourage his children in their pursuit of happiness, we make the most of the time we have, because we know time is short, and we don’t want to waste any of it fighting.

My husband is at least a foot taller than me, and very strong, in him I find great peace and security, just like I do with the Lord, because as my headship, he is my protector and my guide, if he says no, then no it is, I may not like it all the time, especially if it is something I really want, but I know my husband and I know that he does not have a cruel bone in his body and he does not deny me the things I want without good reason, whether I ever find out why does not matter to me, I trust him and sometimes, he knows about things that are coming up that I know nothing about that he is trying to plan ahead for, usually a surprise for me anyway (like for my birthday this year, he sent me to a Spa for the day to be pampered wohoo!). He buys me flowers and we go on romantic walks together, and if we have no money, he will stop and pick me flowers from the roadside.

I wish every woman in the world could experience my life for one week and see what they are missing out on, see what they are giving up so that they don’t have to submit to man. To see how happy my sisters and mother-in-law and I truly are. Our husbands open doors for us and pull out our chairs, they give up their seats if we have nowhere to sit, they will take the kids if we are tired beyond words from a long night with babies so that we can get some sleep, why? Because they were brought up in the love and admonition of the Lord and were taught to live this way in order to have a happy home and marriage.

My father-in-law has always tried since his sons came kicking and screaming into this world to teach them how to treat a lady so that when they were married they would know how to treat their wives (and from where I am standing, his hard work paid off, and praise God my sisters and I are REAPING the benefits). He treated his wife like a queen so that they would see how it is done, that they would see how to love a woman and make her feel like a woman, to feel beautiful in ratty old pajamas and morning breath and bed hair.

He (Pastor Ron) would wake up early every day and clean the kitchen so that their mother would not have to do it in the morning because he knew that it was her least favorite thing to do (in fact, he still does, everyday, honestly before God), to wake up and find a messy kitchen (and when my husband was growing up and even now, they typically had or have at least 10 people living with them that their parents had taken in off of the street or that many people in and out of their house all day, so it was generally very messy in the kitchen, not an easy feat to keep clean on a good day), and it was all out of love, service is love there was and is no hidden agenda or point to prove, you must get out of the ‘woman are a doormat’ nonsense it is self pity and self-indulgence in the worst possible way, get out of it and make something of your life.

If fathers would do what God has commanded them to do, to raise up their sons in God, in his ways, they’re sons would grow up to be men rather than what we have which is a world full of whiny little boys that lack responsibility, men who would treat their wives correctly and keep their wife beating hands to themselves, and women would be ecstatic to be exactly that, a woman, if mothers would raise up their daughters in such a way as to be a real ‘feminine’ woman, then women would be able to be gentile and dainty, motherly and still have strength and courage and the ability to hold jobs that are commanding as well as run a household and see to the needs of the family. But don’t you think for one moment that there aren’t women out there who physically abuse their husbands too, because there are, it’s disgraceful and as a species, we are tearing each other apart.

If all this were done, there would be peace in the home, I do the things I do in my marriage as an act of service out of love, I love my husband and I respect him and I want to please my husband, I want to keep him from wandering so I give him the very best of myself at every opportunity, and he does the same for me, because he wants to make me happy, he loves me and he wants to keep me from straying to find something better, neither of us have to, for in each other we have found the very best.

My heart goes out to single mothers and fathers who have to work so hard to keep food on the table and clothes on their children’s backs. They work so hard that their children are raised by the system, in schools and daycare centers, by people who are not obligated to teach them anything of value. We live in a time and age where morals and decency have gone out the window. I pity women that have to ‘have it all’, the executive position (not because they are deserving of it mind you, but to prove that they can do it all) and the bigger paycheck than their husband, horrible women that take pleasure in stripping their husbands of their manhood and their God given right to be the bread winner and main provider for their family, women that are more than OK with always being at odds and in competition with their husbands rather than their friend and partner, the one the other can count on as having their back when the whole world seems out to get them.

I can’t stand women who allow nannies to raise their children because they have better things to do with their time (side note: this does not apply to women who genuinely need the help because they have no outside assistance because the husband is gone for whatever reason i.e.: death, divorce, traveling salesman, a clown with the circus etc.).

As for my sisters and I, we don’t want someone else raising our children, we don’t want to miss a second of their precious lives, for they are the embodiment of the love that flows between ourselves and our husbands, through them our love for each other lives on and we can see the fruit of our love walking and talking and laughing and growing in the Lord. We don’t want our children lost in some classroom of 30 other children, where they cannot get individual attention to meet their needs to help them succeed in life, my daughter is the oldest of all our children she is five and a half, my nephew will be five soon and I have two nieces that will soon be four, and through home schooling, they are reading and writing, they know their alphabet and the phonetics of each letter, as well as the additional ones that apply to vowels, they are very artistic, they speak clearly and fluently and express themselves so well that people walking by on the street comment to us about how well developed they are, even their doctors and dentist mention it to us at each and every visit.

And we owe it all to God for the life he has given us, for the opening our eyes to the truth about the wonderful blessings that can be found in living what most women consider a curse and a plague upon women the world over, the life of a wife in submission to her husband. How sadly misled you have all been, so when you ask me if you are wrong, I answer you with this. Yes you are wrong, emphatically 100% dead wrong and you have cheated yourself out of a life of such joy and total completeness that cannot be measured or fathomed. And I am so very sad for your loss, and I wish there were some way that I could open your eyes to allow you to see it for yourself.

My response may not have been what you were looking for, for I and my family are not comrade’s with women’s liberation it is the enemy and a family killer and it is sending countless women pouring into hell at an astonishing rate You know that heart disease is now the number one killer of women today, and it does not surprise me, for women have lost their heart the heart of motherhood, of being a wife and a helpmeet to the one who is supposed to be the love of their life aside from God, they traded pure gold for fools gold, real diamonds for cheap imitation jewelry, a life time of honor for generations to come for short and fleeting false glory and through their vanity they starve and purge their bodies, not to attract men, but to please other women. Oh how we have fallen, is there anyone who can rescue us in these the end times?

For the sake of your eternal salvation, I would encourage you to once more read all of the articles posted on our website by myself and my sisters, my aunt and my mother-in-law, and this time, try to see the blessing in it, try to see what you are missing out on and above all else, try reading it without listening to the lies of the enemy telling you that you are worthless if you submit to man, because this is how we, if we are in submission appear in God’s eye’s, as said by the wisest man in creation; King Solomon:

Proverbs 31 v 10-31: A wife of noble character, who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call he blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

This is a woman in submission. Now I don’t see a single mention of small-minded, dimwitted baby making factories in that piece of scripture at all, do you? This is how we are to model our lives. It seems like a very high commission indeed to me and I intend to continue to enjoy it to the fullest, and I encourage you to pursue it, married or not, If nothing else, be in total submission to God for the saving of your soul. Stop denying yourself the humble glory of womanhood, and live for just once in your life, live.