Insecurity
How to be who God wants you to be!

God has called you for a reason. He called you for who you are, and for what you are, for the personality that you have. Many people are insecure about who they are and what they are doing; and most all of that is because they won't see or accept what God has for them.

Look at the calling on your life, your day-to-day life. God might call you to be in retail for example, a salesperson. It is in that calling where you will not only find peace and joy in what you do, but the people God wants you to minister to as well. Most people fall into insecurity when they step away from what God has called them to be. They want better things, or in their carnal minds think, “ I can do better than this job,” but how can you do better than what God has called you to be and what God has given you to do?

He called you for YOU. Not who you could be, but who you are. Let's look at me. I am an electrician. I love the outdoors. I have a wife and two kids. My wife and I have dreadlocks, gauged ears and a small beat up car, and I love it. Yes, I could cut my hair, get a new job and a better car, try and be what the world wants me to be, but what good would it do me? I would never be able to minister to the people God has called me to talk to and I would never truly be happy.

Just as in this scripture you are that one lost sheep, and though there are ninety-nine more sheep to do the Lord's work, there is only one you, and only you can bring God to people through your eyes.

If I talk to someone you were supposed to talk to, and I told him or her, 'God loves you!' they may or may not hear what I am saying, whereas you might say, 'God has a love for you and a way for you to be free of the hurt in your life, he has set me free of the same things in my life', and then tell them how the Lord helped you out of it.

Now which one do you suppose would be better for them to hear, something nice from me, or the words that God has given you for them.

That is why God has called you for you, for the way you are, and for how you would go about sharing the Lord. I could talk to your friends 'til I'm blue in the face, and they might hear what I have to tell them about the Lord. Not to say they can't reserve what the Lord has for them through someone else, but they are more apt to sit and listen to what you have to say to them. God can move through anyone to talk to your friends and family, but what may take years of talking through someone else, might only take days for you, and the only reason for that is because of who you are, and the way you look, and the things God has you do in your everyday life.

You might not think it but your look is very important: it tells people a little bit about who you are, and that you don't need to look like all the other people sitting in church to be filled with God, and teach His word. And I want you to know that you don't need 4 years in a bible college to tell others about the Lord, all you need is a hearing heart that seeks His truths.

Look at it this way; if you are a 9 to 5, well-off business person, (you know, big house, nice flashy car), would you want to stop and talk about God with someone who has dreadlocks and a beat up car? I think not. You would rather talk with someone higher up the pole. Someone on your level, so to speak; that is why God has called you the way you are. But we have to remember that as different as we all are, judgment from you is the one thing that will either draw people to God or push them away irreconcilably. And to whom much is given, much will be required, it doesn't matter what you do or don't have as long as Christ is the center of your life and all He has given you is for a purpose, the salvation of others.

Now, let's look at why people have insecurity: it happens when you drift away from what God has called you for. It is in our nature to try to be bigger and better; to get a higher paying job, a bigger house, nicer car, etc., and in doing this we crawl further and further away from God.

You will find that if you are truly looking to serve God in whatever He may have you to do, that you are overjoyed with who you are when you are doing the things God has put in front of you. You will especially know you are doing the things God wants you to do when you hear the devil telling you that you are better than this and that you would be happier doing anything else. When we buy into that lie, that is when we start to feel insecure about who we are, why we are here, what we look like.

But when we are doing God's work, whether it be at a job or ministering to people, you will find you really don't care what people in the world think about you, or how you look, or what you're wearing, where you live, etc.

But you really do need to know what it is that you are called to do, who you are called to talk to. God has not called me to go into big churches and speak up at the pulpit. God has called me to be in little villages in third world countries, in streets, to talk to drug addicts and homosexuals, these are the people God has called me to minister with. If I step outside of what God has called me to do, His blessings will not follow, His peace will not be in me, and I will have the insecurity that a majority of people suffer when the cares of this world cause them to stray into pastures where God is not the Head Shepherd.

This goes for all things we do, we must know what we are called to do in Christ. Let's look at why God called you. Let's say God has called you to be a dishwasher at a restaurant. It is there that you will find your happiness, your joy, your peace. It isn't because you're a dishwasher but because you are where God wants you. It is always when we think we can do better that we become unsure of things and begin to wonder if God really meant for us to do these types of things, jobs that might be considered lowly in the world's eyes, because we are leaving the calling God has put on our lives. What we forget is that the lowly position is highly esteemed in God's eyes, that he put you there because there are many weaker vessels in Christ's service that would not be able to sustain their walks with Christ if He were to put them there. God is not an unjust God and the eternal reward which awaits those who allow the Lord to humble them in the eyes of the world far outweighs anything this world has to offer. We forget that each plate of food we serve or public toilet we scrub is not done for man, but for the glory of the King.

Know that being a dishwasher is not who you are in Christ; who you are in Christ is an ambassador and an heir to His kingdom, for Christ has called all of us to bring His word to all the nations. Being a dishwasher might be the position you need to be in to do just that. In Christ you are a brother or sister, and as such we will all be given different jobs and ways of life, we will all look different, but we will all have the same love in us, the same call to bring God's word forth, and we have to be who we are to do that. I thought for me to be saved I had to change who I was, what I looked like; I thought I had to have a suit on and go to church three days a week (keeping in mind that if I had dressed inappropriately or wore things that were revealing before, that there would be a few changes). In my thinking this, I am 100% WRONG. God tells us that a church is a gathering of believers in Christ, a place we go to get an infilling of the Holy Spirit, to recharge in Christ if you will, to gain more knowledge of Christ and then bring it to people that need God in their life, people who aren't in church on a Sunday. We can't keep ministering salvation to people who already know God. Church is not a big building, and you DON'T need to change what you look like to be saved. You DO need to change who you are inside, your life must be all for Christ and His work, and the desire of your heart to be that you want to see other people come to Christ, and help their walk with God in anyway that you can.

Now back to the insecurity issue. The world demands that we have this perfect package life, one that closely resembles cereal boxes because they all look the same, with neighborhoods that have hundreds of identical houses, with suit and tie jobs and the perfect family with the right amount of kids and the good private schools, etc. But God tells us we are being perfected daily and that He loves us just the way we are because He sees what He is shaping us into each time we lay down ourselves and our hopes and dreams to do His will which is pleasing in His sight. We may not get everything right the first time, but before the God that we serve who looks to the heart and sees what lies within, He knows that our desire is to keep trying 'til we get it right, that we want to bring Him honor with our lives. That what matters most to us is not what we have, but what we have with Him, a loving relationship and the good gifts of our Heavenly Father. That's why He called us, it ministers so much to people to see that you look the way you do, and that you can be filled with Christ, and doing His work, and speaking about His work just the way you are. No one is called to be a pew warmer, we are not called to sit in a church 3 days a week and do nothing, people who do that are dead in Christ.

Jesus tells us we are ALL to teach and preach His word to the world, not just sit at church and let the pastor do all the work, that bibles should be cracked open more than once a week. You are to go to church to learn more about Christ, and then teach others about Him. If you are going to church and hearing God's word and not bringing it to those that need Christ, rather than people who hopefully have Christ because you see them in church, but people that really need God, when you do this, for it is selfishness to fill yourself up with the love of Christ and the knowledge of His truth and not pour it out that you might be filled anew as the love of Christ flows out through you like water from a fountain, then you are not a Christian you are a religious person, and God tells us he will spit the likes of these out of His mouth.

You will see a change in your life if you let go of what the world wants you to be, and fully accept and become who you are in Him, who God has made you to be, and start doing what Christ had planned for you since before the creation of the world, even if it is being a dishwasher. Find the joy in knowing you are doing what God wants you to do, and by doing that job you will meet the people God wants you to talk with. Or just simply let your everyday life of service be an example to them of the joy Christ can bring to anyone, anywhere and any time and in every circumstance. It might be that you do dishwashing for a short while and then God tells you to move on to a new job, a different job. Great or small, it doesn't matter as long as you know that God is with you. God brings you from place to place and job to job for the people that you need to minister to, not for the money, or the nice life, or a big house. God tells us He will supply ALL of our needs, not just some of them, that means money as well. If you are doing what God has for you, you will not have a need that stops you from doing Gods work. This is not to say you'll never need money, or food or clothing, etc., because you will. But that is where faith comes in and asking, for most of the time we have not for we ask not, and when we ask, we do it EXPECTING God not to answer the request. How sad we are. Remember God has you where you are for the people and His work, not the money or riches of this world and especially not for status in the eyes of man!

Your position in the world is not your position in Christ, for the first shall be last and the last shall be first. God gives grace to the humble and opposes the proud. So be blessed with the job God has for you. In the end it all serves His purpose, and what you look like on the outside in this world will not change how God looks at you. It is more important to God what you look like on the inside, for that is what God will see before He looks to your outward appearance. I have seen people with ¾in. flesh tunnels in their ears tattooed up one side and down the other more on fire for God than some people I've seen in big churches that "seem" to have it all together and are looking sharp.

It's not what we are, but who we are and the word of God tells us that we died and only Christ remains. If you are truly walking in Christ, people of this world will see Him shining out from you way before they see you at all. Give all these cares and concerns to the Lord for He knows just what to do with the lies of Satan that are sent purely to discourage you from serving God with your whole heart and that if the burden becomes too great, a great many people will miss their opportunity for salvation by your not being in the exact place God always intended for you to be. Stop trying to see things from the world's perspective, for heaven is our home and we are aliens here (no, not little green ones) and we get to see things for what they are. The world is growing old and tired from all the sin and soon He will return. Wouldn't you rather be about your Father's business, no matter how lowly it seems to some when He returns, that He may find you faithfully serving rather than complaining in a corner somewhere? The most important thing for you to hear is "Well done, good and faithful servant, enter into my rest, the joy of the Lord" and not "away from me for I never knew you." Someone has to feed God when He is hungry, cloth Him when He is naked, visit Him when He is sick etc. (Matthew 25 v 31 – 46). Know that what you do for anyone in this world, you do for the Lord. When you have a job in this world, you work for God. If you gain anything in this world, praise God, but don't let it make you who you are. Know that nothing compares to the greatness of knowing Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior and don't let anyone rob you of seeing the truth behind where God has you, whether it's a kitchen or an office, it's still the presence of the Most High God and you are pleasing and acceptable in His sight, that's all you need to know.

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